Real love is not the stuff of pop songs

          You could listen to your favourite selection of love songs and think of how lovely it would be if your love life was as rosy as in songs. Unfortunately, life is not always a bed of roses and real love is not as simple as you think. There are three main reasons why real love is not so much of a fantasy.

One of the reasons is that love, at first sight, does not exist. It is common to see a storyline in songs where a guy stumbles upon a girl he meets for the first time and out of nowhere, he starts singing his love for her. We hear a lot of people saying ‘It was love at first sight when asked how they met but in reality, people are merely attracted to the physical appearance when meeting someone for the first time without really knowing who they are.

Besides, real love is not acquired that easily. Real love is an adventure between partners. Read Psychology Today, both partners should be willing to give their all to each other to ensure the prospects of finding real love is high even if it is not guaranteed. By giving their all, both sides need to be there for each other especially in midst of hard times.

This leads to the next point and that is, real love is found after passing the hardship test together. The hardship test is continuous in every relationship and this is when couples will start to see the beauty of real love. Yes, couples will have their moments of drama when facing an issue, no matter how big or small it is. However, a clear sign that a relationship is strong is when couples manage to overcome these hardships that put their love to the test even under extreme conditions.

To sum it up, real love is not easy to acquire like in pop songs. Pop songs are simply giving encouragement for people to love. I do agree that it is heart-soothing to hear the romantic words being sung in a nice melody but we ought to realize that real love is not a fantasy, but an adventure.